Are you involved with a Narcissist? 

(…or, possibly a Psychopath, Sociopath, or Borderline Personality Disordered individual?)

If so, and even if you’re not sure, you may be feeling confused and uncertain about this person, especially with how their actions don’t match their words. 

You may also be feeling anxiety, fear and severe stress response symptoms – fight/flight/freeze/fawn – resulting from their “Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde” reward and punishment patterns of behaviour, including their ever so subtle “cycle of abuse” – love bombing/idolizing, devalue, discard – which, is multi-layered and designed to keep you as “supply.”

This can leave us:

*Feeling alone, exhausted and confused in this difficult relationship

*Tolerating strange and abusive behaviour

*”Walking on eggshells” around this person, always “on alert”

*Feeling “addicted” to this person – you keep going back, hoping it will “be better this time?”

*Experiencing dissonant thoughts (internal conflict –  “I love them/I hate them”, “They’re a narcissist/Maybe I’m a narcissist?”)

*Trying to explain it to others who simply, “don’t get it”.

If this seems true:

You have likely been targeted by a Cluster B personality disorder (a personality impairment/character disorder) as determined in the DSM-4 and DSM-5 (Diagnostic Statistical Manual, American Psychiatric Association) and, your brain has likely been injured by the dual dysregulation (PTSD and Cognitive Dissonance) perpetuated by the Cluster B’s pervasive (pathological) behaviours. 

And, the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment behaviours (Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde) can cause “atypical trauma symptoms” which can last a lifetime if not healed.

I understand what you are experiencing, and have worked with targets of narcissistic abuse exclusively for almost 10 years.

My Online Private Practice offers :

* Validation of your situation

* Understanding why your Core Personality Traits (Agreeableness & Conscientiousness) became a magnet for their Core Pathological Traits (impairments in Empathy, Intimacy, Self-identity & Self-direction) 

*Emotional regulation

* Harm reduction

*Trauma education

*Psychopathology education (understanding their personality impairments)

*Skill building

*Communication support 

*Effective tools for navigating family issues, divorce, legal system, parallel parenting, parent alienation

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY …

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to help heal your…

* Typical Trauma – complex ptsd, emotional dysregulation

* Atypical Trauma – cognitive dissonance (internal conflict )

* and, to help regulate your autonomic nervous system