Are you involved with a Narcissist?

A Gaslighter? 

If so, and even if you’re not sure … you are probably feeling confused, uncertain and exhausted.

And most likely … because you are here … you are at your “wits end” … needing support.

Whether from a relationship or friend, family member, boss or colleague, narcissistic abuse is REAL and is DANGEROUS for our brain/neurobiology…

It can leave us:

*Feeling alone, depleted and exhausted

*Tolerating strange and abusive behaviour

*”Walking on eggshells” around this person, always “on alert”

*Feeling “addicted” to this person – you keep going back, hoping it will “be better this time?”

*Experiencing dissonant thoughts (internal conflict –  “I love them/I hate them”, “they’re a narcissist/”maybe I’m a narcissist?”)

*Trying to explain it all to others … who simply, “don’t get it”.

If this seems true:

You have likely been targeted by a personality impaired individual  – namely a Psychopath, Narcissist, Anti-Social, or Borderline Personality Disordered individual  – Cluster B Personality Disorder – as determined in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual, American Psychiatric Association.

These are strong “scientific labels” for people who suffer from personality impairment in EMPATHY, INTIMACY, SELF-DIRECTION and SELF-IDENTITY.

As a result, your brain has likely been injured by the dual dysregulation (PTSD and Cognitive Dissonance) perpetuated by the Cluster B’s pervasive and enduring behaviours.

Again, these are strong “scientific labels” for your feelings of stress, anxiety, and grief.

And, more importantly, the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment behaviours (Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde) can cause “atypical trauma symptoms” – COGNITIVE DISSONANCE (pervasive and enduring internal conflict) which can last a lifetime if not healed.

Again, these are strong “scientific labels” for your confusion, self doubt  and loss of self-confidence.

Not only do we suffer TYPICAL trauma from narcissistic abuse – complex ptsd, emotional dysregulation.  We ALSO suffer ATYPICAL trauma, namely Cognitive Dissonance. 

Our brains are “plastic”, “changeable”, and because of the time spent with the personality impaired person, our brains become “damaged” from the “Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde behaviours of reward and punishment, gaslighting, manipulation, and cycle of abuse (love-bombing, devalue, discard) causing us relentless internal conflict (“I love them/I hate them”, “I need to leave/I cannot leave”, They are a narcissist/ Maybe I’m  a narcissist”)

I understand what you are experiencing, and have worked with targets of narcissistic abuse exclusively for almost 10 years.

My Online Private Practice offers :

* Validation of your situation

* Understanding why your Core Personality Traits became a magnet for their Core Pathological Traits  

*Emotional regulation

* Harm reduction & Trauma education

*Psychopathology education (understanding their personality impairments)

*Skill building

*Communication support 

*Effective tools for navigating family issues, divorce, legal system, parallel parenting, parent alienation

and most importantly

Brainspotting

to help heal your…

* Typical Trauma – complex ptsd, emotional dysregulation

* Atypical Trauma – cognitive dissonance (internal conflict )

* and, to help regulate your autonomic nervous system